You are your only limit.

I have been scared to post for the past year, as I’ve been avoiding to post on this blog because somehow…somewhere…sometime ago I started getting thoughts that I’ll be judged for my own writing and self-expression on this blog. I’m not sure when I started thinking these thoughts, but maybe because of the way I was raised by my dad always being judgmental of me, or maybe because of the way I grew up in school made me criticize myself for not always getting or being 100, or maybe just the way people think around me made me feel scared to write anything down…whatever it could’ve been I was scared to write again.

What prevented me from writing all this time had been my own limiting thoughts and beliefs. It had limited my own self expression for myself that had not made me write anything at all, and by doing so I had made myself depressed. I realized I haven’t given myself ME time to express myself to the world, as I wanted to and needed to, but instead focused more on how I was going to be judged, criticized, or evaluated for my own writing on this blog…and that had never even happened before. My own thoughts…more so my own fears was my biggest illusion I created for myself that have prevented me from my own goals and desires that I knew in my heart I could and still achieve.

I was always jumbled with my own thoughts and feelings I carried out in my heart, day in and day out, it got to the point I couldn’t hold it in anymore and made me realized TODAY I have to start writing. I realized all this time I had been anxious and totally not the happy-empowered-inspired me as I was before, because I stopped writing. Writing had always been my outlet to have a voice in this modern world and to make a positive impact; writing helped me un-bottle my true feelings, reminded myself of my own values, my own opinions about anything that I could never express to anyone; writing was what I needed to do to become happy again.

Deep in my heart I know what my purpose is and that is to redefine what the society think is beautiful, redefine what society think is cool, redefine what society think is trendy, redefine what society think WE need to be, and how WE should live. We are imperfect, flawed, odd, weird, strange, scarred, wounded, broken-hearted individuals, and I am here to express all the pieces that made us who we are today and who I am today ❤

It’s only you that you have to look into to know exactly what you need to do to make yourself happy again. When you are unhappy, there is a way to be happy again and that is within you. You are your only limit to achieve anything you want to be or have, go and push through it and never forget to always be you ❤ Stay tune to the new Empower Love Blog.

 

Love,

Ting Ting

Stop waiting for somebody to save you, and save yourself <3

There has been multiple times when I waited, waited for a reply, waited for the train to come by, waited for the rain to stop, but really…just for somebody to save me. I recently read a book called “How to get Sh*t done” by Erin Falconer, there was one section of the book where she had mentioned something that made so much sense to me, and that was: Not to depend on just one thing to make you happy, successful, or productive. Depending on one person, one goal, or one thing might be why you are still waiting, waiting for someone, something, or anything to come save you when you can just save yourself…because if all fails, that one thing you have been focusing on all your life doesn’t have your back anymore…what are you going to do? Where are you going to be?? The very least you can do for yourself, is to start building your own life and to have your own back.

Erin mentioned 3 major aspects you should focus on in your life to feel more productive, successful, and happier. The 3 major aspects in the book were career growth, personal growth, and relationship growth. I absolutely agreed with her because focusing on just one thing can fail, and you would start feeling unhappy with yourself. Hence, you have to start focusing in on other things that is important to you. Focusing on multiple goals to improve your life will keep you away from waiting, feeling more productive because you have other major things to do, and to build what’s important to you in your life.

In the end, we are all still trying to figure out life, who we are, our gifts, our talents, and our own specialties. Never let this world take advantage of you just because having a career is what everyone is focusing on, focus on building YOU, by focusing on yourself and building on who you truly came here to be, that is pure happiness and giving yourself love. Do you enjoy dancing? Make time for it! Do you want to learn a new skill? Make time for it! When you were younger, did you love singing?? Make time for it! Life is short, and we don’t have much time here on Earth, we didn’t just come here to work or to slave ourselves with just one goal, have multiple goals!  Enjoy life ❤ In order to be truly happy with our lives, you have to begin with your life, make it unique, make it YOU, make it beautiful.

 

Love,

Ting Ting

 

Empower Love ❤

The struggle won’t last forever.

Nothing lasts forever ❤️ Believe me, if you’re struggling right now, the struggle won’t be forever, if you’re hurting right now, you won’t be hurt forever, if you’re broken right now, you won’t be broken forever. Trust in yourself that things will get better, and if it doesn’t it’s time for you to make a change and it’s up to you if you want to stay in that struggle still or get out of there. Life itself can be a struggle but that doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about it, you can and believe me you are stronger than you think you are ❤️ diamonds are made out of pressure.

Empower Love,

Tingting

 

 

Bottled up feelings

Sometimes you bottle up your feelings, you don’t want to say anything, you’re scared to express yourself…maybe because of what the other person would say, or if they might hurt you or maybe you might hurt them, all because of fear you bottle up your feelings…you bottle it up, you bottle it up, you keep on bottling it up…until your body starts to show you signals that something isn’t right, your vibes start to give in that something isn’t right, your tone of voice start to change even when you talk…the truth is, you can’t bottle or hide your feelings forever, there’s a human need for you to express the truth and express yourself.

When you bottle up your feelings, you’re keeping yourself in, you’re not letting yourself go, it’s an unpleasant feeling . I’ve experienced it many times before and I hated it…when I come home and I notice myself sad or not feeling too well, I know it’s because there’s bottled up feelings inside of me that needs to be expressed. Those feelings daunt me until they are expressed…

I learned that you can’t hide from your own feelings, it will always find its way to show itself. If you have something to say, say it, if you feel like something isn’t right, it isn’t, if you really care about yourself, never bottle up your feelings again ❤ If you love yourself, don’t be afraid to express yourself.

 

With love,

Tingting

Empower Love ❤

 

 

Coming back.

I can’t believe it’s been this long I haven’t posted anything, this blog I started when I was in university was what got me out of depression and what helped me put my life back together. I still remember the first time I wrote and published my first post on this blog, almost 3 years ago…I was nervous, I was excited, and I was proud of what I had started and having a platform where I could express my inner mind and my inner feelings without anyone judging me was the best feeling ever. I guess somewhere down my working field and relationship road, I was so focused on trying to make people happy, trying to make things right for myself, trying to balance life, I forgot about myself and the little things that I always do that makes me happy.

I realized two important things in your life can take away the most time from you, and that is: work and love, but where are you in between? I noticed myself feeling so down one day and I didn’t know why, I started crying days after and I finally realized I just wasn’t happy. period. I was craving change, I wanted more time for myself and I needed it. This is where blogging came back and I never want to forget about it again, to me it was like me forgetting about myself, and having no where to express my inner feelings and emotions I want to share to the world…and why I started this blog.

I started this blog to express me, my ideas, my feelings, the messages I want to share to the world, and how dark, how deep, how cold this world can be sometimes, and how love can change everything. I didn’t want to be quiet anymore, I want to be heard and this is why I’m coming back.

Tingting

Empower Love ❤