Stop waiting for somebody to save you, and save yourself <3

There has been multiple times when I waited, waited for a reply, waited for the train to come by, waited for the rain to stop, but really…just for somebody to save me. I recently read a book called “How to get Sh*t done” by Erin Falconer, there was one section of the book where she had mentioned something that made so much sense to me, and that was: Not to depend on just one thing to make you happy, successful, or productive. Depending on one person, one goal, or one thing might be why you are still waiting, waiting for someone, something, or anything to come save you when you can just save yourself…because if all fails, that one thing you have been focusing on all your life doesn’t have your back anymore…what are you going to do? Where are you going to be?? The very least you can do for yourself, is to start building your own life and to have your own back.

Erin mentioned 3 major aspects you should focus on in your life to feel more productive, successful, and happier. The 3 major aspects in the book were career growth, personal growth, and relationship growth. I absolutely agreed with her because focusing on just one thing can fail, and you would start feeling unhappy with yourself. Hence, you have to start focusing in on other things that is important to you. Focusing on multiple goals to improve your life will keep you away from waiting, feeling more productive because you have other major things to do, and to build what’s important to you in your life.

In the end, we are all still trying to figure out life, who we are, our gifts, our talents, and our own specialties. Never let this world take advantage of you just because having a career is what everyone is focusing on, focus on building YOU, by focusing on yourself and building on who you truly came here to be, that is pure happiness and giving yourself love. Do you enjoy dancing? Make time for it! Do you want to learn a new skill? Make time for it! When you were younger, did you love singing?? Make time for it! Life is short, and we don’t have much time here on Earth, we didn’t just come here to work or to slave ourselves with just one goal, have multiple goals!  Enjoy life ❤ In order to be truly happy with our lives, you have to begin with your life, make it unique, make it YOU, make it beautiful.

 

Love,

Ting Ting

 

Empower Love ❤

The struggle won’t last forever.

Nothing lasts forever ❤️ Believe me, if you’re struggling right now, the struggle won’t be forever, if you’re hurting right now, you won’t be hurt forever, if you’re broken right now, you won’t be broken forever. Trust in yourself that things will get better, and if it doesn’t it’s time for you to make a change and it’s up to you if you want to stay in that struggle still or get out of there. Life itself can be a struggle but that doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about it, you can and believe me you are stronger than you think you are ❤️ diamonds are made out of pressure.

Empower Love,

Tingting

 

 

Bottled up feelings

Sometimes you bottle up your feelings, you don’t want to say anything, you’re scared to express yourself…maybe because of what the other person would say, or if they might hurt you or maybe you might hurt them, all because of fear you bottle up your feelings…you bottle it up, you bottle it up, you keep on bottling it up…until your body starts to show you signals that something isn’t right, your vibes start to give in that something isn’t right, your tone of voice start to change even when you talk…the truth is, you can’t bottle or hide your feelings forever, there’s a human need for you to express the truth and express yourself.

When you bottle up your feelings, you’re keeping yourself in, you’re not letting yourself go, it’s an unpleasant feeling . I’ve experienced it many times before and I hated it…when I come home and I notice myself sad or not feeling too well, I know it’s because there’s bottled up feelings inside of me that needs to be expressed. Those feelings daunt me until they are expressed…

I learned that you can’t hide from your own feelings, it will always find its way to show itself. If you have something to say, say it, if you feel like something isn’t right, it isn’t, if you really care about yourself, never bottle up your feelings again ❤ If you love yourself, don’t be afraid to express yourself.

 

With love,

Tingting

Empower Love ❤

 

 

Coming back.

I can’t believe it’s been this long I haven’t posted anything, this blog I started when I was in university was what got me out of depression and what helped me put my life back together. I still remember the first time I wrote and published my first post on this blog, almost 3 years ago…I was nervous, I was excited, and I was proud of what I had started and having a platform where I could express my inner mind and my inner feelings without anyone judging me was the best feeling ever. I guess somewhere down my working field and relationship road, I was so focused on trying to make people happy, trying to make things right for myself, trying to balance life, I forgot about myself and the little things that I always do that makes me happy.

I realized two important things in your life can take away the most time from you, and that is: work and love, but where are you in between? I noticed myself feeling so down one day and I didn’t know why, I started crying days after and I finally realized I just wasn’t happy. period. I was craving change, I wanted more time for myself and I needed it. This is where blogging came back and I never want to forget about it again, to me it was like me forgetting about myself, and having no where to express my inner feelings and emotions I want to share to the world…and why I started this blog.

I started this blog to express me, my ideas, my feelings, the messages I want to share to the world, and how dark, how deep, how cold this world can be sometimes, and how love can change everything. I didn’t want to be quiet anymore, I want to be heard and this is why I’m coming back.

Tingting

Empower Love ❤

 

 

 

24 lessons.

When I was younger, I couldn’t wait until my birthday….but as I got older, my birthday seemed to have come by faster than ever. I guess as you age (lol) the numbers start to add up, but at the end of the day I still feel like I’m 16 and my age never mattered to me…I still have big dreams I want to accomplish, I still have a big vision for myself, and I still want to better myself every single day.

I was listening to a motivational podcast the other day, and they said one thing that stood out to me, it was: “365 days from now, you wouldn’t want to be the same person as you are now… you would want to become a different person, a person who has changed, and a person who has grown.”  A year from today I would want to become a different person, much stronger, much more knowledgeable, and much more wiser than who I am now.  😊

I thought it was a good idea to come up with a list of 24 things I learned when I was 23, to reflect, change, and grow, so here it is! ❤  My 24 lessons:

 

  1. You are worth more than you know and capable of more than you think.
  2. Trust yourself.
  3. Never give up on your dreams.
  4. Work hard but be smart about it.
  5. Have a clear and precise vision (know what you want).
  6. Be patient  (in time all things will come).
  7. Don’t just think about it, take ACTION!
  8. Express your feelings, don’t bottle them up.
  9. Eat more vegetables, save the animals.
  10. Hold trust like a paper (you can’t trust everyone).
  11. Take care of yourself before you take care of anyone else.
  12. It’s okay to have a bad day, it makes you appreciate the good days 🙂
  13. Be grateful (Always).
  14. Keep on learning, never stop growing.
  15. Speak up.
  16. Love with all your heart.
  17. Never dwell in your fears (you’ll only sink deeper, be fear-LESS).
  18. Take calculated risks.
  19. Never compare yourself or look up to the media (you never know whats fake or whats real out there) You’re REAL, stay true to yourself. ❤
  20. You’re never too old to be silly.
  21. Keep a list of all things that make you happy, so when you feel down reach out for that list.
  22. Both coffee and tea is antioxidant rich.
  23. The past does not exist anymore, only in your mind, so stay in the present and never let a moment go.
  24. Time is the most valuable thing you could ever give to someone you love. ❤

 

Thank-you for reading 😊

Happy Holidays!!!

 

Tingting